May LIFT-OFF!

Breaking Through Self-Loathing: A Path to Inner Empowerment

I recently had a conversation with a man who was struggling to get traction in his life. He was sixty years old, and after just a few minutes of asking deeper questions, he paused, looked down, and said quietly, “I just have a bunch of self-loathing.”

That moment struck me deeply.

How many of us carry this quiet burden? How many walk through life with a deep sense of inadequacy, shame, or self-rejection—often without even realizing it? I believe this self-loathing isn't something we’re born with. More often, it’s something we learned early in life, as children doing our best to survive, be loved, and feel safe in environments that may not have fully supported us.

Many of us took on the pain, responsibility, and emotional confusion of our parents or caregivers—because, at that young age, that was the only way we could make sense of our world. In doing so, we internalized messages that something was wrong with us, that we had to earn love, or that we were somehow not enough.

But here's the powerful truth: healing from this doesn’t have to take years of therapy.

It takes the right kind of inquiry—the kind that goes beyond just talking about problems and starts to uncover the internal systems, beliefs, and patterns that are still running the show. We need to ask the questions that reach into the heart, mind, and soul, uncovering the origin of our pain and shining light on the parts of ourselves we've long kept hidden.

This work is not about blaming the past or looking outside ourselves for answers. It’s about turning inward with honesty, compassion, and courage.

Yes, it’s often uncomfortable. It takes effort to confront the internalized voices, the unconscious habits, and the emotional triggers that still hold power over us. But when we do, we gain access to the deeper parts of ourselves—the parts that are resilient, wise, and capable of profound transformation.

Too often, traditional therapy misses the mark. It talks about the issues, but doesn’t always engage the inner mechanism that’s keeping the suffering alive. When we learn how to meet these parts of ourselves with new tools, insights, and emotional resources, everything can begin to change.

So I ask you:

What pain or frustration are you still holding onto? What belief still whispers that you’re not good enough? What weight is keeping you exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck?

If you’re reading this and feeling seen, I want you to know—you’re not alone. And you don’t have to carry this burden forever.

I would love to have a conversation with you, to help guide you through this inner terrain and toward the life you truly want to live—where you feel safe, loved, empowered, and fully alive in your own skin.

Because freedom doesn’t come from fixing yourself. It comes from finally seeing that you were never broken to begin with.

Fondly,

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📚 This Week: Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert
This witty, eye-opening read explores why we’re so bad at predicting what will make us happy—and how we can get better at it.

What stood out to me? It shifted how I approach goals and productivity. Instead of focusing on the “big finish,” I’m paying attention to smaller tasks and daily joys. Those moments are the outcome—and when we honor them, we quietly move toward the bigger picture without overwhelm.